Good Manners Chart (Manners & Etiquette for Kids)

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You’ve seen it. Those kids who are glued to a phone and don’t even look up when their parents introduce them to you. Kids who don’t know how to shake a hand, kids who boss their parents around in the store, kids who put up a stink when they don’t get their way. Kids whose first language is sarcasm (with a minor in four-letter words), yet don’t have categories for “please,” “thank you,” or “excuse me.”

These children need to learn good manners, proper etiquette, and basic kindness towards others.

Kids these days. *Shakes head.*

The thing I didn’t expect, though, was that these would be my kids.

Yep. Don’t get me wrong, we taught our kids to say “please” and “thank you.” Except it didn’t stick.

We taught our kids that interrupting, yelling, and fighting is wrong. They still did it.

At the table, we emphasized serving others first, chewing with your mouth closed, and sitting straight. But they didn’t.

The reality is that teaching good manners to kids is hard. It’s not simply a matter of telling them to do certain things and not do other things; you have to train them. As parents, I don’t think we understood that right away (we had to be trained ourselves, haha).

Training involves repetition. How many times does a gymnast stretch? How many miles are run, day after day, before a track meet victory? How many stitches go into a quilt, how many hours at the batting cage before the game-winning home run, how many years of study and practice before a successful surgery?

The answer: lots. And lots. And lots.

And our kids are getting it. They’re not perfect, but they are improving. They can speak to adults, answer questions, say please and thank you, respectfully sit through church and small groups, help with the dishes, and earn high marks for classroom behavior.

So don’t be discouraged when your kids don’t turn into little angels the first time you go over the good manners chart. It will take time, practice, explanation, repetition, more repetition, more repetition, more explanation, more practice, and even more time. Then you’ll just cycle through and do it all again.

But you’ll get there! There’s a reason children don’t grow up overnight. Raising kids and teaching them proper behavior takes time. But the results will be well worth it.


One helpful step along the way is to use a “good manners chart” to teach your kids the basics. Here’s what we have in store for you in this article.

  • The Good Manners Chart
  • Free Download: The Good Manners Chart
  • Manners & Etiquette for Kids
    • Good Manners Definition
    • 10 Basic Good Manners for Kids
    • Table Manners for Kids
    • Manners at School
    • Cell Phone/Electronics Etiquette
    • 10 Bad Manners to Avoid

The Good Manners Chart

So let’s just get right to it. Here is the good manners chart, which details 10 basic manners and the reasons why they are important, plus 10 table manners and 10 manners to practice at school.

Read further to get a free download/printable version (which has much nicer formatting). Also keep reading for explanation of the hows and whys so you can be prepared to teach your kids these must-know manners.

Say “please” whenever you ask for anythingShows respect to the person you are talking to
Say “thank you” whenever you are given anything Shows gratitude to the person who gave you something
Respond to people when they speak to youShows that you hear and value their thoughts
Do not interrupt; wait for others to finish speakingShows that what the other person has to say is important
If you’re unsure if you can do something, ask permissionShows respect for other people’s property, homes, toys, and rules
Cover your mouth when you cough, sneeze, or yawnHelps prevent germs from spreading, helps conceal your body functions
Keep negative opinions to yourselfHelps avoid hurting the feelings of others, keeps you from being a “downer” or poor influence
Do not make fun of others or use crude languageShows respect for other people by not insulting or offending them
Knock (and wait for a response) before enteringShows respect for the privacy of others
Help others whenever you canShows that you care for others, builds friendships, and often teaches you new things
Wash your hands before eatingListen to and obey your teacher and other adults
Put away phones and electronicsBe kind to everyone, not just your friends
Sit up straightWait your turn
Place your napkin in your lap and use itSay “excuse me” if you bump into someone
Chew with your mouth closedRaise your hand before you speak
Don’t reach across the tableKeep your desk and work areas clean and organized
Don’t ask for dessertKeep supply areas tidy; restock supplies when they run out; tell the teacher if something is missing or broken
Ask to be excusedDon’t whisper, pass notes, or cause distraction in class
Take over your plate and clean up after yourselfDo your homework promptly and turn it in on time
Ask how you can help clean upDon’t brag about your own accomplishments or make fun of another person’s work

Free Download: The Good Manners Chart

Everything in The Good Manners Chart is explained in detail in the article below. If you skim the article and think “ugh, TL;DR” then just grab this good manners chart, print it out, and start working through it with your kids.

(Click the “available here” button above to get the PDF, which you can print, download, and/or save to your computer for future reference.)

In the good manners chart we detail some of the most important basic manners, plus table manners and manners at school.

In the article below you’ll find deeper insight on each manner and why it is important in how you treat others. We also have sections on cell phone (e.g. electronics) etiquette and a list of bad manners to avoid. All this will help you find creative ways to teach manners, along with the reasons why we practice good manners: It comes down to to showing love and respect to others.

Manners & Etiquette for Kids

Good Manners Definition

Good manners means
polite behavior that shows other people respect, courtesy, and kindness.

A good definition of manners for kids is knowing how to treat people well at all times.

10 Basic Good Manners for Kids

  1. Say “please” whenever you ask for anything
  2. Say “thank you” whenever you are given anything
  3. Respond to people when they speak to you
  4. Do not interrupt; wait for others to finish speaking
  5. If you’re unsure if you can do something, ask permission
  6. Cover your mouth when you cough, sneeze, or yawn
  7. Keep negative opinions to yourself
  8. Do not make fun of others or use crude language
  9. Knock (and wait for a response) before entering
  10. Help others whenever you can

See the Good Manners Chart download for simple, basic reasons why these manners matter. When you can clearly and simply show why manners are important, it helps kids to understand and take ownership of their behavior.

Table Manners for Kids

Good Manners Chart: Manners & Etiquette for Kids

1. Wash Hands Before Eating

Everyone’s hands get dirty throughout the day. The last thing you want to do is bring dirt, grime, and germs to a place where people will be eating – yourself included!

Since the quickest way to get sick is by putting germy, icky stuff into your mouth, you are treating yourself and others with kindness when you wash your hands before a meal.


Go to the nearest bathroom (often the kitchen sink will be in use by the cook or at least by dirty dishes) and wash your hands for 15-30 seconds using hand soap. Dry off well and then come promptly to the dinner table.

2. Put away phones and electronics

At mealtimes, you should silence and put away all electronic devices. And because phones still buzz and vibrate when silenced, it is ideal to place cell phones and other devices away from the table.

If you are in your own home, set up a location to put devices. If you are a guest, you can put your phone in your pocket but it may be better to put it in a jacket pocket or purse hung up on a coat rack.

When our family goes anywhere my children almost always bring a little backpack or handbag with notebooks, crafts, and small toys. This would be a good location for electronic devices. Personally, we don’t allow our kids to bring any sort of electronics to other people’s homes.

Exceptions are when you are expecting a call, or when parents have requested that the child be available to contact. If this is the case, tell the adults at the table that you are expecting a call and then excuse yourself from the table when it comes.


“I’m sorry my phone is ringing, I’ll put it on silent. Do you have a place I could put this out-of-the-way?”

“My parents are going to call around 5:30, so please excuse me if I answer the phone.” [When call comes, say “excuse me” and go away from the table to talk]

Cell phones and other electronics have become a major part of our lives, so we will have a more complete section on cell phone etiquette later on as well. See below.

3. Sit up straight

Sitting up straight in your chair looks better than slouching. When you sit up, not only do you put on a better and more attractive appearance, but you also show interest in what is happening around you. You are ready to partake of the food and the conversation.

In contrast, a slouching person seems tired, sad, uninterested and uninteresting. When you are bent over in your seat, you communicate to those around you that the food is unappetizing and your fellow diners and boring. So show respect and kindness to the person who prepared the meal and to the rest of the family by sitting up straight.

This is also the same reason you should not put your elbows on the table.

4. Place Your Napkin In Your Lap and Use It

When you place your napkin in your lap, it helps to catch any crumbs that may fall into your lap. It is also out-of-the-way from all the food on the table, and easy for you to grab and use if needed.

And you probably will need it. That’s perfectly fine; it’s better to use your napkin than have a food-stained chin or cheek. To use, gently dab wherever needed. Dabbing (no, not that kind!) is a more genteel and sophisticated movement than wiping. You should avoid wiping across your face.

5. Chew with your mouth closed

No one wants to see your food as it is being chewed. Keep you mouth closed when eating. This will also help you make less “smacking” sounds when chewing your food.

6. Don’t reach across the table

When you reach across the table, it makes you appear greedy, needy, and impatient. Plus you run the risk of knocking things over, spilling, draping your clothing into food, or dropping hairs and crumbs onto the table. So never reach across the table.

Instead, politely ask for things to be passed to you.


“Elijah, could you please pass the ketchup?”

7. Don’t Ask for Dessert

Dessert is my favorite part of the meal, too! But don’t worry – if there is dessert, it will be offered at the appropriate time.

8. Ask to be Excused

It is impolite to simply get up and walk away from the table. Instead, ask your parents if you can be excused from the table.

If they say no, stay around and learn to enjoy talking with the rest of the family.


“Mom, may I please be excused from the table?”

9. Take Over Your Plate

You used the plate, and you made it dirty. The very least you can do to help those responsible for cleaning up is to take the plate into the kitchen.

If you are in someone else’s home, ask where to put your plate. By doing so, you show respect to those who prepared and those who clean up after the meal by being willing to help out, even in this small way. It is a very polite gesture.

10. Ask How You Can Help with Cleanup

Again, since you got to eat because of all the cooking mess that was made, it is polite to offer to help clean up afterwards.

Don’t say “Do I have to help with anything?” That makes it sound like a chore and a burden. Instead, say, “How can I help clean up?” Saying it this way shows that you are truly grateful for the meal, and are willing to show your thankfulness by helping.


“Thank you for dinner, Mom! How can I help clean up?”

“Thank you for the delicious lasagna, Mr. Stewart. Can I help clean the kitchen?”

Manners at School

1. Listen to your teacher (and other adults)

The teacher, helpers, secretaries, lunch servers, and other adults at the school are there to help you learn and grow as person. They care for you, and are in charge for a reason. So show respect and kindness to your teacher and other adults in authority over you by listening to them.

Listen to them respectfully, answer when spoken to, and then make sure you do what they say. This is not only good manners but also the best way to get learn while you are at school.

2. Be kind to everyone, not just your friends

It’s tempting to just hang out with your friends. You like them, you talk to them, you have inside jokes and clubs and secret handshakes, all that fun stuff.

While there is nothing wrong with having close friends, it is still impolite to purposefully exclude others, turn your back on them, whisper in front of others, and ignore the other kids. When you do these things it shows that you like certain people and not others. It’s a form of favoritism, and it’s rude.

Instead, go out of your way to show kindness to everyone. Include other children in your games and clubs. Invite the new kid to sit by you at lunch or to do a project with you. Who knows, maybe you’ll make a new friend!

3. Wait your turn

It is very rude and impolite to cut in front of others. The other people in line or who raised their hand first have been waiting longer than you. It won’t hurt you any to wait for a few minutes, and it shows that the others who are in line are just as important as anyone else. Waiting your turn is a way to show respect to your classmates and help promote order for your teacher and the other adults.

4. Say “excuse me” if you bump into someone

School can be a busy place. There’s people everywhere, lots of classmates buzzing around your classroom, halls and assemblies and lunch lines. Do your best to avoid bumping into people by paying attention and keeping your hands to yourself. Don’t swing your arms around or break dance in a busy hallway, and respect the rules for hallways, lunch lines, and other areas.

If you do accidentally touch or bump into someone, look at them and say “excuse me.” If you knock someone over, be sure to apologize and help them up.

5. Raise your hand before you speak

In a room full of students, this is the best way to make sure you do not interrupt others and wait your turn. The teacher can’t call on every student every time, and it is not fair for one student to shout out all the answers or try to take over the topic of conversation.

So you are helping maintain order and respecting the other students (as well as the teacher) when you raise your hand and wait to be called upon before speaking.

6. Keep your area clean and organized

When you keep your area clean and organized, you are practicing self-control. You will be able to do many good things (and avoid many bad things) if you can learn self-control.

Additionally, when you keep a tidy desk, table, cubby, shelf, or drawer, you show kindness to your teacher and the other students by helping keep the classroom clean and looking good.

7. Tidy & restock supply areas

This is a way that you can be helpful and considerate towards others. When you keep the supply areas clean, tidy, and organized, you help the other students in completing their projects. And when you restock things that run out and don’t make a mess, you help the teacher avoid one more of their many tasks and responsibilities.

8. Don’t cause distractions in class

This means don’t whisper or pass notes while instruction is happening; don’t draw attention to yourself unless you are asking a question or in need help; refrain from humming or tapping during tests or reading time; don’t talk to your friends when others are working on a project.

9. Do Your homework on time

If you are assigned homework, make sure that you work on it right away at home so that you are able to turn it in on time. Tell your parents when you have work to do or homework due, and ask them for a quiet space and/or help if you need it.

It’s very important that you return your homework to your teacher when it is due. This will help you with learning what you need to learn, and it is also good manners because it helps your teacher to review and grade it on schedule.

10. Don’t Brag or Mock

It is impolite to always focus attention on yourself. Don’t brag; meaning, don’t tell the whole class every time you ace a test, get top marks, or otherwise succeed at something. This goes back to point #8, “Don’t Cause Distractions.” When you do this, you are showing honor to yourself rather than trying to respect others.

Instead, focus attention on others. Praise when they do well, encourage them when they are having difficulty, and help them when needed.

On the flip side, don’t make fun of or “mock” the work of your classmates. Perhaps you are very good at art and another student is not, or maybe you are a fast reader and another student is still learning their letters. Or maybe you just feel like another child is a dweeb. Whatever the reason, if you make fun of the way someone else looks, acts, or talks then you are not showing them kindness and respect.

Cell Phone Etiquette (Applies to all electronics)

  • When a visitor comes to your home, put away your device, stand up, and greet them. This is a polite gesture of respect to any visitor, even if the visitor is only there to talk to the parents
  • Put all electronics away at the dinner table
  • Don’t use devices in a library, church, at a restaurant table, or in a theater
  • Put away your device when it is time to socialize and speak with others
  • Do not text during a meeting or class
  • When someone speaks to you, immediately put down your device and respond to them. If you are in the middle of something urgent, you may say, “Please excuse me a moment while I finish this.” Finish, then put the devise away and talk

10 Bad Manners to Avoid

Here are some examples of bad manners that you should avoid. For parents, this list can actually be a surprisingly effective teaching tool (in moderation).

Set aside a few times where you teach proper manners by modeling (or having your kids model) these poor behaviors. They will have a blast pretending to be bad, and in doing so will learn what is appropriate and what is inappropriate.

  1. Poor table manners: Talking with your mouth full, chewing with your mouth open, reaching across everyone, putting elbows on the table, making a mess
  2. Using foul language: Four-letter words, body function jokes, religious exclamations
  3. Insulting others: Name-calling, teasing, making fun of people for how they look or act, treating people poorly because they are different from you
  4. Being negative: Whining, complaining, expressing frustration, pouting, saying “I hate this,” or “I’m bored,” giving “the silent treatment”
  5. Being inconsiderate: Making everyone always play what you want, cutting in line, making a mess without cleaning it up
  6. Interrupting: Talking over other people, speaking while others are talking, changing the subject when others are having a conversation, talking at a theater or in class
  7. Silence: Not saying anything when someone gives you something or tries to talk with you
  8. Yelling: Trying to talk to someone through a door or in another room, screaming when you are angry, throwing a tantrum when you don’t get your way
  9. Disobeying: Ignoring the instruction of your parents, teachers, coaches, or others; not following rules and laws; simply not paying attention and then forgetting what your parents or others ask you to do
  10. Leaving a mess: Getting out food, crafts, or toys without putting them away, leaving doors and cupboards open, running through the house with muddy shoes

Download the Good Manners Chart

I hope this article has been helpful! Going through this has certainly been helpful in our home. If you haven’t already, you can download The Good Manners Chart here:

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